Maybe you have a friend or a loved one who is in danger. What can you do?
“I tried to make her get away from her boyfriend, but she just stopped answering my calls, or would make excuses about getting together. Doesn’t she know how dangerous he is?”
It can be frustrating and painful to see your loved ones in danger. Remember the SOS hotline is not just for direct victims of abuse – you can call and talk to someone to learn more about what you can do to help your friend.
Call the SOS hotline at 620-342-7943 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
Encourage him or her to participate in activities outside of the relationship with friends and family. If he or she ends the relationship, continue to be supportive of them. Even though the relationship was abusive, your friend or family member may still feel sad and lonely once it is over. He or she will need time to mourn the relationship and will especially need your support at that time.
Help him or her to develop a safety plan.
Be there for them. Encourage him or her to talk to people who can provide help and guidance. SOS provides free counseling or support groups.
Offer to go with him or her to talk to SOS. If he or she has to go to the police, court or a lawyer, offer to go along for moral support.
Accept that you cannot “rescue” him or her. Although it is difficult to see someone you care about get hurt, ultimately the person getting hurt has to be the one to decide that they want to do something about it. It’s important for you to support him or her and help them find a way to safety and peace.