If you are in immediate danger, dial 911
- Get medical attention, whether or not you have injuries, to evaluate the risks of STDs and pregnancy.
- If you suspect you may have been drugged, let the medical professional know.
- If you want to report the assault, notify law enforcement immediately – you don’t have to report, you can also make an anonymous report, it is your choice.
- Preserve evidence of the attack — don’t bathe or brush your teeth.
- Write down details you can remember about the attacker and the circumstances of the attack.
Call SOS at 620-342-1870 or 800-825-1295
free, confidential help and information.
Remember, it wasn’t your fault. Give yourself time to heal. Keep in mind that it’s never too late to call for help. Some survivors do not realize they need help until months or years have passed.
Domestic Violence/Dating Violence
Domestic violence is a pattern of coercive behavior characterized by the domination and control of one person over another, usually an intimate
partner, through physical, psychological, emotional, verbal, sexual, and/or economic abuse.
Does someone you love:
- Put you down, curse you?
- Call you names or say things that are meant to be cruel?
- Humiliate you?
- Threaten to hurt you or do something to hurt you?
- Have an explosive temper?
- Use intimidation, bullying or violence to resolve conflicts?
- Hurt your pets?
- Destroy the things that are important to you?
- Keep you away from family and friends?
- Use symbolic violence, such as tearing up a wedding photo?
- Control what you do, the people you see and talk to, what you watch or read, where you go?
- Act extremely jealous or possessive?
- Limit your outside involvement, using jealousy as an explanation?
- Intimidate you with fists through a wall, throw objects, breaks doors?
- Slap, hit, push, bite, hold you down or use a weapon on you?
- Force you to have sex?
- Intimidate you by exposing you to hate crimes?
- Use immigration issues to bully you?
IF YOU ANSWERED YES, you are in an abusive relationship.
Some people believe they have the right to control the person they love with
emotional abuse, threats, intimidation and physical and sexual force. If
someone is hurting you, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT and YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
Stalking is a crime that can be part of other forms of abuse, or in the case of stranger-stalking, can be a singular crime. If you are being stalked,
- Keep a log of your stalker’s activities
- If you feel threatened by a situation and you are not sure why, leave the situation and seek safety.
- If you receive abusive or threatening texts or voicemails, take a picture of them for evidence. Do not delete them – deleted messages and texts cannot be retrieved once deleted.
- You can take your phone to the police to have evidence collected, such as threatening texts or voicemails
- Develop a safety plan for your daily activities in case you are being monitored.