Domestic Violence

Advocate must have great listening skills

By an SOS Rural Victim Advocate A job application for a rural advocate position with SOS, Inc. doesn’t look any different than an advocate’s application to work in one of the more populated areas covered by our agency. There are some differences in how we accomplish our goal of increasing safety for domestic violence, sexual assault and stalking victims in the six-county areas, dependent
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SOS shelter provides safety net for victims

By Cecilia Hernandez, Shelter Manager/Victim Advocate At 3 a.m., an SOS advocate’s phone rings. Helpline staff is on another line stating an advocate is needed at a residence for a domestic dispute or at the hospital for a sexual assault. An SOS advocate arrives within 15 minutes to provide support for the victim. At SOS, safety is our primary concern, which often means utilizing
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Who’s on the front line during a crisis?

By Danielle Armitage, Outreach Prevention and Education Coordinator When someone is in an abusive relationship SOS Crisis Services is the front line of being able to help individuals. We help them move from victim to survivor within Chase, Coffey, Greenwood, Lyon, Morris and Osage Counties. SOS services are available 24-hours-a-day to individuals who seek assistance from an advocate. During the workday, advocates are available
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Domestic Violence: How it affects the family

I think back to nights when I am sure they heard every word and when they were suddenly taken from their warm beds. I worry about the lasting affects and scars they might have due to the abuse. Recently, I read that “Boys who witness their fathers’ abuse of their mothers are more likely to inflict severe violence as adults” and that scares me.
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How is SOS like a power plant?

Many of you may know me as the SOS community relations director. I have been with SOS one and one-half years. My experience is vast in media/community relations and crisis communications but in other venues than non-profits. I worked for a nuclear power plant for 15 years. Recently, I caught myself comparing SOS to a nuclear power and realized there are many similarities between
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Valentine, Are You Mine? 3 Warning Signs of Love Gone Wrong

“You belong to me”

“Be Mine”

Sound like familiar, sweet sentiments? They can be. Yet some practice a love that is about control and ownership instead of mutual support. Healthy love is about respect, equality and there is a sense of peace within it. Unhealthy relationships are marked with jealousy, fear, guilt, coercion and control.
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Domestic Violence questions you’ve wanted to ask, but didn’t!

We interviewed Yvette Sosa, SOS bilingual victim advocate, to learn answers to the burning questions you’ve wanted to ask, but never did. What is the most common type of domestic abuse? Verbal and emotional abuse. “It usually starts with name calling – making the person feel worthless,” said Yvette. “Often victims talk themselves out of realizing they are being victimized by minimizing the situation….
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Domestic Violence Awareness Month

As October is ushered in, SOS is eager to promote Domestic Violence Awareness Month. This month, we are celebrating the stories of survivors and remembering the victims. Domestic violence plagues the lives of many, is manifested in a number of ways and does not discriminate based on demographics or socioeconomic status. In 2010, 10.1 percent of Kansas adult females reported domestic violence victimization. In
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